Before I respond, I would like to stress that a question of this sort -- an issue which, as you will soon see, is the subject of debate amongst halachic authorities -- must be addressed to your personal rabbi. That said, for information purposes I will give you a little background information on the subject.
As a general rule, dressing up in clothing exclusive to the opposite gender is definitely a problem. The Torah expressly forbids such behavior: "A man's attire shall not be on a woman, nor may a man wear a woman's garment."1
This prohibition is intended to prevent licentious behavior. The question remains, however, whether this prohibition applies to Purim, a day when any cross-dressing would only be for "harmless" entertainment purposes. The Rama, in the Code of Jewish Law2, mentions two opposite opinions on this question: 1. There is no prohibition. 2. It is prohibited. He then says that the custom is to follow the first, more lenient, opinion.
The Mishnah Berurah (halachic code authored by Rabbi Israel Meir Kagan (1838-1933)) cites several halachic authorities3 who recommend that the custom of Purim cross-dressing be abolished and prohibit this practice. Likewise, as far as I can see, the overwhelming preponderance of later rabbis who discuss this issue in their responsa4 is to prohibit the practice, citing other earlier authorities who call it "wicked."
But again, be sure to consult with your rabbi for an actual halachic decision.
Just two reminders: a) The costumes should be checked for shatnez before they are worn on Purim -- even if they are just rented. b) The laws of modesty apply on Purim as well... Be certain that any costume you wear conforms to the year-round modesty requirements.
Have a happy Purim!
Rabbi Eliezer Danzinger for Chabad.org
| FOOTNOTES | |
| 1. | |
| 2. |
Orach Chaim 696:8. |
| 3. |
The Taz, in his glosses to Yoreh De'ah sec. 182, the Bach, the Shalah, and others. |
| 4. |
Yabiah Omer, Yechaveh Daat, and others. |
I know a couple who dressed in the opposite gender. She wore her skirt and he wore her wig and it was the funniest. She would not wear pants since she does not anyway. The whole things was so funny for Purim. I almost did not recognize her husband. This was a while back.. I think it is fun to dress up in costume that is different and especially for adults to dress as funny as possible. They, too, need to have a good time, too.
Judaism is a modest faith and people do try their best to dress modestly even on Purim. Even a young child dressing up in a wig and is a young boy had fun this Purim looking like a grandma in my shul. I thought he was a grandma. All the kids looked so cute. Purim is a fun holiday for all.
Fleetwood, NY
"Hey, it's Purim!" Not that I'm any expert, but my understanding is that Purim is unlike any other day.
Phila
Bal Harbour, FL
Pittsburgh, PA / USA