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The Deciding Factor
How to help a child who can't make up her mind


The very act of deciding limits us; it strips us of the illusion of freedom we have when all options are open to us...

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Posted: Nov 20, 2009
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Until you work on your own inability to make decisions you cannot expect your daughter to change. You are her role model and she is copying you.

Sometimes inability to make decisions results from lack of self confidence. You may not trust yourself enough to be decisive. What does it matter if you make a few mistakes? Learn to prioritize, give more mental attention to bigger issues.

An exercise: Choose a simple decision like what to make for dinner. On separate little pieces of paper write a dinner idea. Fold up and mix them and pull out one at random. Cook that dinner. Do this with your daughter too, with clothing, books, whatever is something that can't cause any harm. This will help both of you learn to stop putting so much effort into decision making and to see nothing is dramatically changed by these random decisions.

Obviously major decisions should not be dealt with this way. But this exercise will help you with day to day decision making.
Posted By Anonymous, east coast, usa


 



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