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I Can't Stop Nagging!

Sunday, October 25, 2009

By Mirish Kiszner

I badger my husband for everything, from the tie he chooses to wear, to the way he talks to me, to the odd hours he keeps. Of course, my criticism doesn't help anyone. How can I learn to bite my tongue?

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Posted: Oct 26, 2009

Great Artical

Posted By miles

Posted: Oct 27, 2009

Firstly, the saying is that three fingers are point back at the pointer. Try it

Second, while the article may have covered why the person is nagging, it did not tell her how to stop. How about a few firm suggestions?

When you find yourself nagging, stop, and apoligize. It may not undo all the damage, but at least he will know you are trying to improve.

Second, determine to not nag about a certain topic. For example, decide that once your spouse is dressed you won't say anything other than that he looks nice, and if he doesn't look so nice you will compliment the one thing he did right, (the sox and shoes match. No mention made that neither the tie nor the shirt match the suit, or each other) or stay silent. (For sartorially chalenged husbands asking to see his clothing choices before he gets dressed is legit, but correct gently, without nagging.)

Work through one area, and then go on to the next. Remember, nagging is a habit you learned, and you can unlearn it.

Posted By Sarah Masha, W Bloomfield, MI/USA

Posted: Oct 31, 2009

This is so true!

I find myself nagging a lot, because I am jealous for my husband's freedom that he can still go out and have his own time. I know deep inside I am resentful. I wish he can stay at home more often and help me with all the chores and take care of the kids.

Posted By Shira, Thornhill, Canada
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Mirish Kiszner is a teacher, counselor and lecturer living in Jerusalem. She's published hundreds of articles in numerous Jewish publications. Her latest book is Extraordinary Stories about Ordinary People (Artscroll), a collection of true stories about real people. She is also a regular contributor to our Help! I've got Kids... parenting blog.

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Mirish Kiszner is a teacher, counselor and lecturer living in Jerusalem. She is the author of Dear Libby (Artscroll), a compilation of questions and responses for kids about real life matters that stimulate parent-child discussions through helping kids identify with other kids.