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I Can't Stop Nagging!
Sunday, October 25, 2009
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I badger my husband for everything, from the tie he chooses to wear, to the way he talks to me, to the odd hours he keeps. Of course, my criticism doesn't help anyone. How can I learn to bite my tongue?
Firstly, the saying is that three fingers are point back at the pointer. Try it
Second, while the article may have covered why the person is nagging, it did not tell her how to stop. How about a few firm suggestions?
When you find yourself nagging, stop, and apoligize. It may not undo all the damage, but at least he will know you are trying to improve.
Second, determine to not nag about a certain topic. For example, decide that once your spouse is dressed you won't say anything other than that he looks nice, and if he doesn't look so nice you will compliment the one thing he did right, (the sox and shoes match. No mention made that neither the tie nor the shirt match the suit, or each other) or stay silent. (For sartorially chalenged husbands asking to see his clothing choices before he gets dressed is legit, but correct gently, without nagging.)
Work through one area, and then go on to the next. Remember, nagging is a habit you learned, and you can unlearn it.
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I find myself nagging a lot, because I am jealous for my husband's freedom that he can still go out and have his own time. I know deep inside I am resentful. I wish he can stay at home more often and help me with all the chores and take care of the kids.
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