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DJ AM Rests in Peace, But Can We?

Once again, a Jewish addict with over ten years of recovery and service work succumbed to the insidious disease of addiction. Adam Michael Goldstein, whose stage name was DJ AM, passed away last Friday at the young age of 36 from an apparent drug overdose.

As a rabbi who attends full-time to Jewish recovering addicts, it is both tragic news and everyday news. Hundreds and thousands of young Jews have lost their lives to the disease of addiction in all its forms. At the same time, every loss is another awakening, another call to action.

Death, by its very nature, makes a stunning impact. There is no stronger statement than a cold, lifeless body. When the deceased person is young, the magnitude of the shock reverberates throughout the interconnected community. Add to that a very unnatural death and a celebrity and you have a "trending topic" on Twitter. The whole world pauses, some for a second, others for minutes, hours or days. This sort of tragedy gets us thinking -- and rightfully so. The Talmud states that when a man passes on, his close friends need to worry. The ones that were directly affected by his passing should take time to reflect on their own lives and its fragility. When someone's death makes the headlines, everyone who reads the news is directly affected. All of us should take the time to think about what value our lives have and how satisfied we are with our spiritual progress.

The details of a person's death call for a lesson that is specific to that event. When I hear about a gentle and kind person, who battled for years against negatine impulses and desires in an environment that was filled with using behavior, I have deep respect for his accomplishments. When I realize that years of successfully winning numerous battles against addiction don't guarantee a final victory, I think about the constant need to reassess ourselves. Most importantly, when I hear that a person who on the surface had a seemingly successful life spent his last days depressed and lonely, I remember that when it comes to helping others, I need to look past the surface.

Adam's last update on Twitter, three days before his body was found, reads: "New York, New York. Big city of dreams, but everything in New York ain't always what it seems." A quote from a famous song, but also a message for all of us: Let's not wait for tragic events in order to start reaching out to a stranger. Let's not wait 'till after death to realize that our friend could have used an extra hand, or encouragement to change.

Not all deaths make it to the national news, and not all drug addicts die. But when they do, it becomes our responsibility to ensure that their death was not without a lesson for the living. I hope that the Jewish Community will renew its continuous support, and increase its understanding of the addicts among us.


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Posted: Oct 15, 2009
we are all at risk
I may be a little out of touch with the contemporary scene (I never heard of DJ) but one thing remains forever. I, having been and as such still am an addict, will always be at risk to losing myself to this disease. I must guard my soul scrupulously at all times, meaning I must guard my actions at all times, or I risk losing it to the yezter hara. There are many times I feel down, not wanting to go on but I do. Blessed is hashem who has allowed me and given me the stregnth to go on. He has given me the choice whether to go on or not. To use his help or not. DJ chose not to despite the help he could have sought out. People not addicted have no idea of the lure that addiction is to embrace the yezter hara. To allow myself to come close to using again puts me at great risk. So far my actions have been staying away, but do not think my thoughts haven't strayed to the lure of "blissful oblivion." Now there is an oxymoron for you. Sad after all the good he did that he himself let go of G-d.
Posted By Norm S., Orlando, Fl

Posted: Sep 6, 2009
Powerful Lessons
Rabbi Pinson, you write so powerfully and eloquently about what we can learn from Adam Goldberg's tragic death -- The fragility of our lives, the need to continually reassess ourselves and values and examine our spiritual progress, and also to reach out to help both friends and strangers. Looking past the surface of peoples' lives is also highly important. I'll also add we shouldn't judge people, even the addicts who do crazy, horrible things in the throes of their addiction.

And in response to Ben R.'s comment, I suspect that it was not that Adam was too proud to ask for help, but too ashamed, because he was using again.

I probably should add that I'm making a documentary film about two unmarried Jewish parents who are drug addicts and their respective journeys from incarceration to redemption, titled RETURN (TESHUVA). We're also filming their family members. We've been filming them both in and out of prisons. They've taught me incredible life lessons.
Posted By RETURN (TESHUVA) Film, Boston, MA

Posted: Sep 1, 2009
Learning from the ones around me
I was watching a special on DJ AM last night. They said that he just taped a show where he was helping other addicts. He was talking about holding a crack pipe, and feeling squirmy, and knowing that something was wrong.
The big book tells us that if we are spiritually fit we can go any-where any-time and do any-thing AS LONG AS THERE IS A POURPOSE for our being there. In no way am I saying that he wasn’t doing what was right. I just want to point out that if I need help, I must remember to not be too proud to ask for it. Also don’t stop doing 12th step work because of being nervous that it wont go well. Just continue working a program, and working on my relationship with my higher power, results are G-d’s job
DJ AM is another reminder to me of why when faced with an alcoholic death or a spiritual lifestyle I must choose the spiritual life.
You will be missed brother but not forgotten.
Posted By Ben R, West Bloomfield, mi


 



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Rabbi Yisrael Pinson is the Director of the Daniel B. Sobel Friendship House in West Bloomfield, MI. Since joining the Friendship House he has helped create a local Jewish Recovery Community where recovering addicts are helped through support, guidance, friendship and community.

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