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Daughter is Selfish
Sunday, October 18, 2009
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As my daughter entered into her teen years, she became so consumed with her wants and needs! We are constantly giving to her, but she refuses to contribute to the family unless there is something in it for her.
You have to know what she will work for in the rewards area. Some teens are at the point they need independent money or a small part time job. You can be the one who HIRES her to babysit, but you have to pre-arrange it with her and respect her enough to ASK if she'd be available. Then you TELL her how much money it is worth to you. Maybe $5 or $10 for the evening or per hour for babysitting. This would make her feel like an "adult" rather than a baby being ordered around. If you do follow the advice of making a list of demands, preface it with allowing her, also, to make a list of demands. THEN discuss each other's wish lists, and then NEGOTIATE. This will teach her, also, to handle conflicts in a mature manner.
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Two wonderful 18 years old teenagers
Negotiating with my girls has never worked.
Last night I was helping some one, so before I left I told them, I need one of you get all the garbage around the house and to do the pizza fro dinner before I come home. Therefore, what happen yes the garbage was up the hill and no pizza left? I got upset why you did not leave a slide of a pizza. So my darling teenagers said. Mommy you told me to make it not to safe it. Therefore, at 10:00 Pm I had to find something to eat. She was right lol
She is human, she is not an adult, so I need to understand and accept that I need to be more careful how I use my words next time.
I working hard to accept, not expect from them. I believe in today’s society is so hard to be a teen. I believe teens want to express their needs and for us parents it is hard to understand because we have been shown very different by our parents.
We do have days that we do not get along, but the majority of the time we do
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