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Divergent Paths

We are walking together. Hand in hand. Me and my youngest daughter.

A forty-something year old and a four year old.

It's Shabbat morning and we're walking from our home towards our synagogue. The walk is about ten minutes, but the heavy snow slows us down. A new thick layer has just fallen last night. Both of us are bundled up warmly.

We have begun from the same point and we're heading to the same destination, but along the way our routes are diverging.

I am determined to choose the fastest, easiest course to our location. She chooses the most enjoyable one, relishing in every nuance along the way.

I stride purposefully and quickly, huddled in my coat, impatiently asking her to hurry along. She is delaying, frolicking, jumping and giggling. She savors the outdoors and experiments with the snow with her gloved hands and booted legs. Time constraints are clearly not a part of her agenda.

I direct my daughter to a well trodden path. I am looking to follow in other's footsteps—to trace the paths that those ahead of me have already tried and tested. She, on the other hand, delights in stepping where the snow has just fallen and is freshest. She is intrigued by her unique imprints and by forging her own new path where no one has stepped.

As we turn the bend, I ask her to join me along the cleared sidewalk, where the trek is least taxing, where the path is smoothest. Yet she is determined to climb the highest mountains and snow beds along the way. She embraces the exertion with joy. And the victory of reaching the peaks and standing tall in victory is a sufficiently intoxicating reward.

As we walk, ever so slowly, she points out to me the many sparkles in the snow. To her, these are precious gifts to behold, diamonds glistening in the sunlight. To be honest, I have barely noticed these shimmers. They have disappeared in my view of the encompassing dull whiteness, as I stride quicker and quicker.


We are walking along the very same route, my young daughter and I. But our paths are diametrically divergent.

Not literally but figuratively.

Maybe it's the four decades that are between us that cause each of us to veer towards a different direction, and to see reality through a different lens. Or maybe she is experiencing the joy and challenge of life while I am merely trudging through it.


It was a relatively short walk.

But maybe along the way, there was something that a forty-something year old learned from the innate wisdom of a four year old.


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Latest Comments:
Posted: Jan 18, 2011
diamonds in the snow
This is a beautiful piece of writing, about something seemingly simple, a walk to the synagogue with one's daughter, and yet, the implications are truly so great, and also quite beautiful to contemplate.

We can learn from our children. They are in so many ways, free of the constraints we place on our lives, and often, on their lives, as they grow. They have an ebullience, a joy of being, and a way of perceiving that we would do well to emulate. They see the joy within all that is. They feel it. To see with the eyes of a child is to re experience the wonder of creation, that freshening, which is truly refreshing.
Posted By ruth housman, marshfield hills, ma

Posted: Jan 17, 2011
CHEISHED MOMENTS
To cherish moments through the eyes of your is to relearn what we have forgot long ago as adults. My 8yr. old little girl used to jump into any puddle we would pass., loved to feel the raindrops on her face, and the look of excitement on her face when looking out the window in the morning and seeing the snowflakes fall is so enlightening. I miss those moments. Cherish them Chana every moment. My daughter is now in the hospital 2 months and I cannot tell you how I miss those moments.
Posted By zivia DeRoss, monroe, ny

Posted: Feb 18, 2009
divergent paths
I'm an 80 something year old woman, another 40 added to the mother, and I am still trying to make my own footsteps in the snow. I can't climb mountains any more but I still can and do enjoy the singing of the birds, the smell of the flowers, and finding new friends. I have been called the black sheep of my family, but I've loved almost every step of my way.
Posted By Anonymous, usa

Posted: Feb 18, 2009
SNOW
BH
As a former Canadian I can honestly say the one thing I never miss about Canada is winter. Once every other year from my Jerusalem windowpane I am enamoured by the snowflakes as my kids run out to play and I, am greatful that I have left that excitement far behind me.Here we worry about not enough rainfall but never about whether we can get our car out of the garage. Thank you Hashem for bringing me home to Eretz Yisrael where snow is mostly a memory.
Posted By Chaya Gross, Jerusalem, Israel

Posted: Feb 18, 2009
Moshiach is definately coming SOON
Our sages teach us that before the coming of Moshiach "The children will teach the parents" This has never ever happened in the history of mankind but we only have to look at technology to see that we RELY on our children to guide and help us and show us the way :)
Thank you Chana for sharing this story with us and bringing us that little bit closer to the ULTIMATE!
Posted By SHOSHANA SHPRINZE, MELBOURNE, AUSTRALIA

Posted: Feb 18, 2009
Divergent Paths
What a beautiful story! We really can learn a lot from children.
Posted By Bob, Boston, MA

Posted: Feb 17, 2009
Childhood
Our children preserve our childhood.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Feb 17, 2009
your story
Oh, WONDERFUL, Chana!!!!!!!!!!
Posted By Barbara, Tel Aviv, Israel

Posted: Feb 17, 2009
Stop and Taste the Snow Falkes!
Does she stop to stick out her tongue and taste snow flakes? Make a snow angel? I do the same thing on the path to shul and wind up there covered in snow. . . :)
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Feb 16, 2009
I always say...
I always tell my friends the secret to my youthful appearance and exhuberance is IMMATURITY! Now I know what I've really been saying -- it's the way you've described your daughter's mode of walking to shul in the snow. Two points for the "I won't grow up" generation!
Posted By M.H. , Yerushelayim/North Miami Beach, Israel/Miami


 



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