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Is Anyone Really For Real?

Realness. Authenticity. Sincerity.

Are these all lost qualities in our day and age?

As you look around you, do you ever feel that our world is full of such hypocrisy, such pretense, such phoniness that it seeps into every facet of our lives?

Our sages call our world alma deshikra, a world full of falsehood, where the true perspective and value is often upside down.

Our political leaders reek of it. And unfortunately, often enough, even spiritual, religious or moral leaders don't fare much better.

How often are those very same people who espouse such high values and morals exposed for their own downright unethical behaviour? Spiritual and religious mentors teaching lofty concepts such as kindness, humility and transcendence are in their own day-to-day lives, behind the glare of the limelight, found to have the greatest, thirstiest egos.

So is there anyone out there who is really real?

Of course there are the exceptions—some great leaders and spiritual mentors who lead sterling lives of goodness, humility and kindness. But still, the grand picture that emerges for the most part is quite unpretty. In fact, I think some of the kindest and most sincere people I've ever met—the ones who I'd consider really "real"—were the simplest, least sophisticated types who weren't out to prove themselves to anyone. They weren't seeking a communal reputation as a "do gooder" nor the most social ballots for leadership. They didn't need to prove themselves as "religiously" moral and exacting or adhering to the law. They were just simply nice, kind, honest people seeking to do what's right, largely unrecognized for their simple greatness.

I'm often asked with all the hypocrisy in our world, with all these spiritual people acting so unspiritual, with all these unkind acts done in the name of religion, in such a climate, how does one remain "religious"? Doesn't it ever turn you off from "religion"?

It can.

Or it can turn you on to "real religion."

Precisely in moments when I feel such a bankruptcy of leadership, such a deficiency in truth and realism, does it make me personally want to bypass this whole façade, the whole pretense and cut to the core.

To the Reality beyond it all.

This has all been predicted long ago by our sages (Tractate Sotah): "In the time period before Moshiach arrives, there will be no one on whom to rely, other than our Father in heaven." And (Sanhedrin): "Moshiach will not arrive until there will be no leaders in Israel."

Surrounded by falseness, living in a world of corruption and untruth—perhaps there is really only one place to turn to seek the inherent truth of all existence.

The Creator of all Reality. And the only true Reality.

Real Realness.


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Posted: Aug 21, 2010
thank you
wow, im so happy to have read this, i have recently been awakened to judaism, but sometimes i get put off by the people and the way they act (the ones i've met anyway) its really made me happy to read this and know there is at least one jewish woman out there who thinks the same as me, so thank you very much

may g-d bless you with an abundance of blessings and happiness :-)
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Jan 1, 2009
LIFE, DAY TO DAY LIFE
WHY IS IT THAT I CANT FIND A PERSON THAT CAN JUST BE THAT (A PERSON) SOMEONE THAT JUST LIVES LIKE MOST OF US DO. I do not understand we all make so much of such menial things. the drama the drugs the lies the phoniess. who cares. dont get me wrong i have values and goals. to much to say and it will never be said in the right way . guess i am just like all the rest. but am i a honest person looking for what is right and means something normal people. where do i go to talk to someone whom i think may understand me. a quote from a great play if i may." What are the simple folk doing tonite" I thought that is what all people were.? How fast the human race forgets and how sad. for all of us
Posted By Anonymous, Desert Hot Springs, ca

Posted: Nov 23, 2008
Is Anyone Really for Real
What great insight Chana our Father has blessed you with. Thank you for the encouragement and the refocus of where our existance truly resides.

Baruch Hashem
Posted By Randy, W.P.B., Fla./U.S.of A.

Posted: Nov 23, 2008
One-two-three-four. Who is best arround the core?

While we put Him on Heaven only,
He and we will be very lonely.
Pa should live among us here,
This is how we wait Moshiach!
Posted By PaNet E.

Posted: Nov 22, 2008
Brilliant Article
You are a talented writer.
I find myself battling with this question constantly and you have put it so eloquently.

Trust in Hashem is ultimate.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Nov 19, 2008
Very true.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: Nov 19, 2008
Cutting to the core of Real Realness
Saturday evening.
I'm tired to a death, freezed as an ice on north polius, finally I reached steps of my house in the forest. Bypassing all basic procedurs I out my dead body to a freezing bed, without power to move even a finger on my hand. I close my eyes and all Darkness of the World, with all political systems, political leaders begun to shine trough every object and defenition on what can exist in our world in general. I see all countries at ones, like small vilages, with their own indentity, like children which are still playing in historical games. When I reach this level, where I can't to see this all and stay alive, I open my eyes, and began to cry in terrible fear, asking myself with only pretense, why G-d time-to-time showing me such things, and why in the same moment I live in the forest, fighting day-to-day for common life comfort as water and heating?


Posted By Emil

Posted: Nov 18, 2008
Hypocrites?
Your ideas are good and reasonable, definitely. What we perceive as hypocricy in some of our l eaders, especially spiritual leaders, is rarefied somewhat, though, don't you think?
Case in point: I attended lectures given by a truly enlightened man. One of the vows people take is to endeavour not to kill, or to harm, and I always wondered why he ate bacon, since I was vegetarian.
The trouble is, we are such perfectionists, and often so rigid in our sense of what is moral or holy that we are often not such mensches ourselves. We demand to know why the corruption, but to question some of these actions is actually stalking. In that case, we would have been questioning an enlightened mans' digestive needs. So, you are so right- just nice, lovingkind and friendly outreach is the most sincere (on both sides of the fence)
Posted By sue, Kanata, ON


 



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Chana Weisberg is a writer, editor and lecturer. She authored several books, including her latest, Tending the Garden: The Unique Gifts of the Jewish Woman. She has served as the dean of several women’s educational institutes, and lectures internationally on issues relating to women, faith, relationships and the Jewish soul.

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