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In Treatment For 40 Years

Studying Judaism and Recovery, I am always fascinated by the similarities that I find between the Jewish people wandering for forty years in the desert, and a struggling addict. As we read up about the Jewish people wrapping up their 40 year journey and finally crossing over into the land of Israel, I am compelled to share with you one lesson that I like to take.

Let's say I have an alcohol or drug problem, and I end up in a plush treatment center... Massage therapists are on call 24/7. There is a committed group of old-timers that come by at all times of the day to share their experience with the patients. The meals are cooked by a top-name chef. The highest qualified therapist runs the clinical program. The temperature is just right, and the swimming pool very attractive. I get to work on my real issues, childhood traumas, relationships. I do 12-step work every breathing minute, and maybe I even dream about it. Why not? Life is sober, and life is good.

Then it's time to go home. Home is very unattractive at this point. Nagging spouse. Credit card debt. Mean boss. Bad economy. Car pool. Bad Michigan weather. Wouldn't it be nice if I didn't have to go home at all? What if I just stayed here, in this safe environment and just be an honest, sober spiritual being?

I guess I would have sided with the Jews who wanted to stay in the desert. I can handle staying sober in an environment where all my needs are taken care of. I can handle recovery in a no-conflict state of being. I can stay away from my drug of choice when my DOC is out of sight.

That's not real life. And that is definitely not spirituality. That surely is not "practicing these principles in all of my affairs."

Being spiritual is my ability to be challenged, and stay my ground. Being spiritual is taking all the lessons that I learned from my therapist, counselor, sponsor and utilize them in my daily life.

It's time to go home.


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Posted: May 21, 2010
In Treatment For 40 Years
Rabbi Pinson;
Thank you for this great article. Yes G-d put challenges to us and we need to learn, cope, accept them and ask him to guide us how to handle them and what to do in times of crisis.
Posted By Esther Lubel, atlanta, ga

Posted: Aug 16, 2009
"In Treatment for 40 Years"
this is, i believe, one of the most comforting & sustaining things i've ever read about recovery. and i want to recommend a book of Jewish-themed daily meditations, "100 Blessings Every Day." it follows the Jewish calender, and is the first thing i read in the morning. i've recently lost my Mother, and this book and the Book of Proverbs have both given me strength -- at least, as much strength as the written word gan give. thanks for reading this.
Posted By Mark Heater, St. Pete, FL

Posted: Aug 12, 2009
Bringing the Message Home
Thank you Rav Yisrael for (as usual :-) making the Torah experience relevant to my reality. To be truthful, I had always mentally condemned the Jewish men who didn't merit entering Eretz Yisrael for their lack of trust in HaShem's promise of a land flowing with milk & honey. Your explanation rings so true! Since returning home I too struggle to make healthy decisions - the ones I know are right for me & what HaShem wants. I am still learning that when it feels like I want something that is not in my best interests that's actually yetzer ha'ra/the disease/dysfunction/old, bad habits trying to control my life.
Posted By Chaya Bluma

Posted: Jan 19, 2009
40 years
I spent nine weeks in a treatment center in Arizona that soundas just like the one you describe. I relapsed within a month.

now I have a job, two kids, a house to run, meals to prepare, etc. etc. etc., and a new journey to sobriety to begin.

i had relapsed after 13 years of sobriety. it's hard because it's hard. real life. so glad I found this web site. thank you.
Posted By Anonymous

Posted: July 29, 2008
once
dear Yisrael
I once had a drug -alcohol problem.
Ive been clean 28-29 years thanks to Hashem and yiddishkeit .
Ive been through a lot in my life.
Posted By yehudah Rothenberg, cincinnati , ohio

Posted: July 25, 2008
40 years
Thank you for this Rabbi. Excellent analogy. In my early recovery I grasped onto the parallel between AA's founders and brothers Moses and Aaron; the 12 steps and the 10 Commandments; the slavery of active alcoholism and Egypt; the concept of "one day at a time", and manna. I can now add long-term sobriety and 40 years of wandering ...plus, "life on life's terms" (the Promised Land).
It's another wonderful day to be sober!
Posted By Paul B, Davis, CA


 



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Rabbi Yisrael Pinson is the Director of the Daniel B. Sobel Friendship House in West Bloomfield, MI. Since joining the Friendship House he has helped create a local Jewish Recovery Community where recovering addicts are helped through support, guidance, friendship and community.

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